You Don’t Have to Tell me… “You don’t have to tell me what feeling you had when your ex-wife showed up…” “You could if you want… either way, take a moment to try to locate that feeling in your body and stay with it for a moment…” “You don’t have to...
It Takes Two To Tango… People come to therapy when they are not satisfied with something in their life, and believe that talking with a therapist might bring a change for the better. Couples come to therapy when at least one of them, is not satisfied with the...
Couples Therapy Basics The following is a brief introduction to couple therapy, covering some fundamental attitudes and basic skills. It is intended for associates who are beginning to work with couples. Those who continue to work with couple might find an...
In our work as therapists, we regularly encounter new situations that prompts us to ask: “What should I do?” Often, there is little in our training that prepared us for the specific setting we are facing. The spirit of the American Pioneer says: “Don’t just sit there!...
Of the Terrible Doubt Of the terrible doubt of appearances,Of the uncertainty after all, that we may be deluded,That may-be reliance and hope are but speculations after all…~Walt Whitman~ The majority of people are yearning for more intimacy and affection in their...
I worked with Rulik as my clinical supervisor during my practicum. What he provided me with during that fairly vulnerable time of individual and professional development was a sense of safety to explore the rough edges of what I didn't yet know, hadn't yet learned, rather than a forum for sharing what I was already confident about. To make the best use of a supervision space, I had to be open, shame-free, and willing to reveal my missteps and uncertainties in earnest - not easy for me. Rulik not only earned the trust that made this opening possible for me, he gave helpful, insightful, smart and compassionate guidance that has ultimately made me a much better therapist.
