The Self-Loathing Client Some clients present their badness or defectiveness as an essential part of identity. To them, self-loathing is not a symptom but a defining truth that is non-negotiable. This usually rubs against tendencies of the therapist to be supportive,...
You Don’t Have to Tell me… “You don’t have to tell me what feeling you had when your ex-wife showed up…” “You could if you want… either way, take a moment to try to locate that feeling in your body and stay with it for a moment…” “You don’t have to...
It Takes Two To Tango… People come to therapy when they are not satisfied with something in their life, and believe that talking with a therapist might bring a change for the better. Couples come to therapy when at least one of them, is not satisfied with the...
Couples Therapy Basics The following is a brief introduction to couple therapy, covering some fundamental attitudes and basic skills. It is intended for associates who are beginning to work with couples. Those who continue to work with couple might find an...
In our work as therapists, we regularly encounter new situations that prompts us to ask: “What should I do?” Often, there is little in our training that prepared us for the specific setting we are facing. The spirit of the American Pioneer says: “Don’t just sit there!...
